Now What – Moving On
Thank you for being with us through this series of CANADEM Notes. We have given thought to anticipating the mission, some of its challenges and rewards and the prospect of coming home or moving on.
What will we do now?
Life is a journey. More international work may lie ahead on our path. We might decide to change professions or to find ongoing work at home, informed by what we learned and experienced. It could be the moment to spend time on something more inward looking.
Whatever we decide, it is in the context of the challenging era within which we are living. The times and the negative forces acting on the world can tempt us into numbness, a feeling of disempowerment, of hopeless discouragement. We must remain alive. Margaret Mead once said, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.” We might add to that “Never doubt that thoughtful, committed individuals are the force of life within those groups.”
We are among those individuals. In whatever expression it may take, we will continue to follow our callings to serve.
What I have learned from you
Take care of yourself.
One time in a leadership position I was starting to feel overwhelmed. I took a course in time management, thinking it would help. To my surprise, the first exercise was to draw a mind map, the image of a pie with “my most healthy, productive self” as the label in the centre of it. The labels in the sections of the pie included physical, mental, material, spiritual, intellectual and relationship. Nowhere did “work” appear. The instructor’s point was that without all of these being healthy and balanced, our capacity to function effectively and resiliently would be constrained.
The invitation was to assess how I was doing in each wedge, to identify where I felt least fulfilled or empowered, and take steps to strengthen myself in those areas. I focused more on sleep, exercise and the quality of what I was eating. I started making music with friends once again. I joined a book club. I changed some spending habits. All of these (over time – it was a gradual process) started making me feel better and do a better job as a manager.
At this time of transition in your own life you might find a similar exercise useful. Take care of yourself first. Put on your own oxygen mask.
Microdose hope
Each day the news leaves me shaking my head with the newest updates on conflict, climate or contrary political leaders and their impact. It is hard to avoid despairing. I recall the quote from Brene Brown in an earlier Note in which she described hope as an antidote to despair, and positive actions as a way to manifest hope. “Right now, the thing that is helping the most is micro-dosing hope. … I am asking myself how I can support the people around me. The people on my team, in my community. How can I make sure that, in the maelstrom of my emotions, I stay committed to courage, kindness and caring for others regardless of choices made by others?”
Build Community
A quick internet search on the topic of resilience produced this quote: “Community resilience is an essential paradigm in an age marked by unprecedented natural and anthropocentric risks.” Communities of all kinds – municipal, sports, music, reading clubs, theatre, spiritual or other enable people to withstand challenges more effectively. It is true for the collective and also for the individuals within the group.
In this moment of transition in our lives we may have lost touch with our communities or have moved into new ones. After my first international mission I found myself isolated for a long time. It was only after finding people with whom I shared common interests and activities that I regained my sense of connection, worth and strength.
I also learned that I became stronger and had a better time if I chose groups within which I could learn and grow. Nobel Laureate James Watson, co-discoverer of the DNA structure, attributed his success to the strength of others. His advice: “Don’t be the smartest person in the room!”
Mentor
That said, we have had the privilege of learning, often through mistakes. We have also learned from those ahead of us on their professional and personal paths and from those at earlier stages who have fresh insights and energies. An important role for elders is to share what they know with others. It is important to be an elder, even if a young one.
Once again, thank you for all you have done and been. We wish you strength along your path, wherever it may lead.